Bdsm Punishment Ideas for Your Submissive
As a dominant seeking new ways to correct and train your submissive, exploring creative methods of punishment can strengthen the dynamic between you. Approaching discipline with care and communication cements trust and understanding.
This article inspires, outlining techniques to reprimand misbehaviour and encourage growth. With over 100 punishment ideas spanning psychological play, physical sensations, restriction and verbal domination, you can discover new ways to shape your slave’s behaviour. Consider your submissive’s limits, never compromising their safety. Move forward on this journey, united by consent and a desire for self-improvement.Read about the male slave bdsm techniques and what I like to do with my disobedient subs
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Establishing Rules and Protocols
Define Clear Expectations
As the dominant partner in a BDSM relationship, you must establish a strict set of rules and protocols for your submissive to follow. Be very clear in your expectations for their behaviour, duties, and responsibilities. Provide precise definitions for infractions and the subsequent punishments. Explain these rules and protocols to your submissive to ensure their understanding and compliance.
Issue Appropriate Punishments
Punishment must be administered when rules are broken or expectations are not met. The punishment should fit the crime. Minor infractions may only warrant a verbal reprimand or temporary privilege revocation. More severe rule violations require harsher punishments like spanking, flogging or temporary confinement. Be consistent in punishment and follow through each time an infraction occurs. Show no leniency or your authority may become compromised.
Provide Rewards and Positive Reinforcement
While discipline is important in a BDSM relationship, rewards and positive reinforcement also have their place. When your submissive excels in their service or obeys particularly well, provide praise, gifts, privileges or physical pleasure. This positive reinforcement will increase the likelihood of continued good behaviour and strengthen your dominant/submissive bond. Find the right balance of punishment and reward for the most effective control and devoted service.
With clearly defined rules, appropriate punishment when those rules are broken and positive reinforcement when they are followed, you will establish the structure and authority vital to a functional BDSM relationship. Your submissive will gain a deeper understanding of your expectations and become well-trained in providing devoted service. Maintaining this level of control and obedience will yield a harmonious and mutually fulfilling partnership between the dominant and submissive.
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Physical Punishments
Corporal punishment
Corporal punishment involves inflicting physical pain on your submissive without causing injury. Methods include spanking, paddling, whipping, and caning. When administering corporal punishment, be very careful to avoid injury. Only strike fleshy areas like the buttocks and upper thighs. Use a safe word in case the pain becomes too intense. Start slowly and build up intensity to find your submissive’s tolerance level.
Bondage and restraints
Restraining your submissive’s movement during play is a simple but effective form of punishment. Methods include rope, cuffs, spreader bars, and suspension. Be extremely careful when restraining to avoid injury or cutting off circulation. Always keep safety scissors on hand in case of emergency. Restraints force your submissive to relinquish control of you, which many find psychologically punishing.
Orgasm control
Preventing or delaying orgasm is an easy way to punish your submissive. Methods include chastity devices, distraction, or simply commanding them not to climax. Edging, bringing your submissive close to orgasm then stopping stimulation, builds up frustration and longing for release. When you finally do allow them to climax, it will be an intense experience. Orgasm control requires no equipment and allows for a range of intensity levels based on your desires.
Sensory deprivation
Depriving your submissive of sensory input is mentally punishing for many. Blindfolds, gags, and noise-cancelling headphones are all simple ways to deprive the senses. Without the ability to see, speak, or hear, your submissive feels disoriented and vulnerable, relinquishing control to you. Sensory deprivation enhances the intensity of all other stimuli, so it pairs well with physical sensations like temperature play or tactile toys. Use it alone or combine multiple methods for a more severe punishment.
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Spanking and Flogging
Physically punishing your submissive, within safe limits, is a direct way to assert your dominance. Spanking, flogging and paddling are all effective methods. Have your submissive count aloud as you spank them, increasing intensity with each hit. Focus the strikes on the buttocks and upper thighs, and avoid hitting the same area repeatedly. Aftercare is important to provide comfort and ensure the physical and emotional well-being of your submissive.
Verbal Humiliation
Some submissives respond well to verbal humiliation as punishment. Call them degrading names, tell them how worthless or useless they are, and point out their flaws or imperfections. Be very careful with this method, as it can be emotionally damaging if taken too far. Discuss limits and a safeword beforehand, and provide aftercare. Verbal humiliation should only be used on submissives who explicitly consent and respond well to it.
Using a combination of these techniques, exercised with care and communication, can be an intense experience for you and your submissive. Always put safety, limits and aftercare first. With practice, you will become adept at dominating your submissive through punishment.
Verbal Punishments
Insults and Degradation
Verbal punishments such as insults, humiliation and degradation can be very effective for disciplining your submissive. You may call them demeaning names like ‘slut’, ‘whore’ or ‘worthless’. Compare them unfavourably to other submissives or point out their flaws and imperfections. For example, you can say something like “You call that a blowjob? The other sluts I’ve had could do so much better. You’re pathetic.”
Commands and Orders
Issue harsh commands and orders to exert your dominance. Make unrealistic demands and punish your submissive if they fail to comply quickly enough. For example, you can order them to “Get on your knees, now!” or “Lick my boots clean, bitch!” Be very strict and aggressive in your tone to instil submission. Repeat commands to reinforce who is in control.
Threats and Warnings
Threaten your submissive with future physical or emotional punishments if they do not obey you immediately. Warn them of the consequences of displeasing you to keep them on edge. For example, you can threaten “If you make another sound, I’ll whip you so hard you won’t be able to sit for a week.” Or “Keep acting like a brat and I’ll lock you in a cage for the night.” Follow through with threats if they continue to misbehave.
Using a combination of these verbal punishments, you can completely dominate your submissive through the power of words alone. Be creative and tailor your insults, commands and threats to their specific triggers and vulnerabilities for maximum impact. Verbal punishments, when used effectively, can be just as degrading and humbling as physical punishments.
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Behaviour Modification
Reward and Punishment
An effective way to modify your submissive’s behaviour is through a combination of reward and punishment. When they obey your commands promptly and satisfactorily, provide praise and a small reward to positively reinforce that behaviour. This could be verbal praise, a special privilege, or a favourite treat. However, failure to obey or break rules should result in swift punishment to correct the behaviour. The punishment should be appropriate to the offence. For minor infractions, try penalties such as loss of privileges, corner time, or spanking. For serious rule-breaking or continued problems, consider forms of punishment such as caning, paddling or whipping. The key is to be consistent and follow through with both rewards and punishment as you have laid out.
Clear Communication
It is important that you clearly and specifically communicate your expectations to your submissive. Explain exactly what is required of them and the consequences for not meeting those requirements. Be very direct about what constitutes good behaviour that will earn rewards as well as bad behaviour that will result in punishment.
Monitor and Adjust
Continuously monitor your submissive’s progress and make adjustments as needed. If certain rewards or punishments do not seem to be effective in shaping their behaviour, try different approaches. You may need to increase the severity or frequency for a while. Or, if they have been well-behaved for some time, you may decrease punishments and provide more rewards to keep them motivated. The key is to be flexible based on their behaviour and responses.
With consistency, clear direction and follow-through, you will be well on your way to gaining the obedience and submission you desire from your submissive. Be firm yet fair, and exacting in your behaviour modification techniques. Your submissive’s behaviour, and willingness to please you, can be shaped through the appropriate use of rewards and punishment.
100 techniques to use on your submissive
Physical punishment
Physical punishment involves inflicting discomfort or pain on your submissive. Some options include:
Spanking, paddling or caning – Using an implement like a paddle, crop or cane to strike your submissive’s buttocks or thighs. This causes stinging pain and leaves temporary marks.
Nipple clamps – Applying clamps to the nipples, which pinch and cause discomfort. The clamps can be adjusted to increase or decrease pressure, using weights on the nipples.
Wax play – Dripping hot wax from a candle onto sensitive areas of skin. The wax is briefly painful when applied but hardens quickly. It can then be peeled off.
Ice play – Running ice or icy objects over the skin. This causes intense sensations from extreme cold that range from uncomfortable to painful.
Cock and Ball Torture, – Electrics, cock slapping, pegs, deep heat, tiger balm, sounds, penis pump, pins
Ball Busting – Balls tied, ball weights, ball stretchers, ball slapping, punching, pulling, twisting
Trampling – Walking on the naked body of the slave
Humiliation and objectification
Humiliation and objectification involve degrading and demeaning your submissive through words and actions. For example:
Verbal humiliation – Calling your submissive degrading names, mocking their appearance or performance, comparing them unfavourably to others.
Forced nudity – Requiring your submissive to be naked when you are clothed, especially in uncomfortable situations. This promotes a sense of vulnerability and objectification, this is also known as CFNM ( Clothed female naked male)
Following orders – Giving your submissive orders and requiring strict obedience. Punish any failure to comply to reinforce their subservient role.
Scrutiny and display – Closely examining your submissive’s body or genitals. Requiring them to display their body in uncomfortable positions. This turns them into an object for your use and enjoyment.
Making them do tedious tasks such as counting rice
Corner time and time out against a wall naked
Doing lines – However many you decide they must write hundreds of times
Body writing – Writing derogatory things on their body
Dressing them up in ladies’ clothing
Using sex toys on them
Taking pictures and videos
Put them in a chastity device until further notice
Ask for Permission to enter a room, speak, use the bathroom
Sleep Deprivation
Have them listen to a song or a sound wearing headphones over and over and over again
Anal plug to be worn all-day
All forms of Humiliation
Degradation scenarios
Wear ball weights around the house
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Whether this be in public or indoors, I will always find the best scenario to put my slave back in his place. No matter what it may be from torture methods, ideas and techniques to extreme d/s punishments and not to forget the funishments as I do enjoy watching my slave’s reactions as I discipline and dominate them
Establishing Rules and Protocols
To ensure your slave understands their place, you must set clear rules and protocols to govern their behaviour.
Strict Punishments For infractions, issue swift punishment to reinforce your authority. Minor transgressions warrant penalties like loss of privileges, corner time, or lines. For moderate offences, consider spanking, paddling or caning in increments of 10-20 strokes. Severe rule-breaking demands harsher discipline via methods such as whipping or cropping.
Daily Rituals
Instil obedience through strict daily rituals. Require your slave to kneel or prostrate themselves when you enter a room. Have them undress you, draw your bath and serve your meals on their knees. Demand to be addressed as “Sir”, “Madam” or a similar honorific and have them ask permission for necessities like using the restroom or speaking.
Regular Inspections
Conduct unannounced inspections of their living quarters and person to check for contraband or imperfections. Require they maintain a perfectly tidy space and impeccable hygiene and grooming at all times. Any failure should result in appropriate punishment and corrective action.
By diligently enforcing a clear set of rules and protocols through fair yet firm discipline, you assert your mastery over your slave and receive the obedience and deference you demand. With consistency, these practices become second nature, allowing the dynamic between you to deepen and strengthen over time.
Physical Punishments
Corporal punishment
Corporal punishment involves inflicting physical pain on your slave as punishment. This includes actions such as spanking, whipping, and paddling. When administering corporal punishment, it is important to be cautious and aware of your slave’s limits. Start slowly and build up intensity over time as your slave’s endurance increases. Always provide aftercare to avoid lasting physical or emotional damage.
Bondage and restraints
Restraining your slave’s movement can be an effective form of punishment. Methods include rope bondage, handcuffs, spreader bars and hogties. Leave your slave in an uncomfortable position for a prolonged period, restricting blood flow and causing muscle strain. Monitor them closely to avoid injury. Release and provide aftercare when the punishment is complete.
Sensory deprivation
Removing your slave’s senses can disorient and frighten them. Techniques include blindfolding, hooding, earplugs, and confinement in a small dark space. Prolonged sensory deprivation may induce feelings of vulnerability, anxiety and loss of control in your slave. Use intermittently in short periods, carefully monitoring their well-being. Provide reassurance and aftercare following the punishment.
Punishing your slave physically requires caution and care. Start gradually, learn your slave’s limits, provide constant monitoring and give thorough aftercare. Using a variety of techniques will keep punishments interesting, but avoid frequent repetition of intense methods. With practice and experience, you will become adept at administering effective and safe physical punishment.
list of BDSM punishments
- ballbusting
- post orgasm torture
- ruined orgasm
- nipple torture (especially with binder clips)
- ball grabbing, twisting, squeezing, or stretching
- tying balls and penis to turn them purple then overstimulating them
- Painful predicament bondage
- Breath play – Controlling his breathing
- Pin Wheels
Violet Wand
Electrics
Spank him or whip him. (Use a wooden spoon or hairbrush, a leather belt, a hard ruler, ping pong paddle)
– Tie him in a stress position.
– Attach his balls to his ankles and tie them together.
– Hog Tie him
– Secure cuffs to his wrist and attach them to the ceiling
– Pull his knees up to his shoulders and put him on a chair. A perfect position for spanking as everything is exposed
–Tie each ball separately with shoelaces or twine and then attach them to his ankles
– Lock his cock in a chastity cage and make him wear it for extended periods.
– Clamp clothes pegs to his nipples, balls, cock, ear lobes or anywhere else.
– Get a butt plug and put it in his ass.
– Don’t let him cum for long periods no matter how much he pleads and whines
– After you pee, make him lick you clean.
– Put deep freeze, deep heat or ben-gay all over his cock and balls
– Drip melted candle wax on him
– Have him do lots of exercises while naked. Esp ones that make his cock flap about (Jumping jacks, star jumps etc)
– Publicly humiliate him eg take him shopping for lingerie
There are many other techniques to punish your submissive
Consider keeping a journal of his misdeeds and reading them out loud to him as a reminder of his wrongdoings. Assign him degrading tasks as penance.
Physical punishment Spanking remains one of the most common and effective punishments. Use implements like hair brushes, paddles or crops for a more intense impact.
Clothespins or clover clamps on sensitive areas like the nipples or genitals can cause discomfort without damage. Remove them slowly for added punishment.
Consider using ice cubes or hot wax for a short burst of painful stimulation.
Restrictions and denial Put your submissive partner in chastity to restrict orgasms for a set period.
Limit privileges like TV, computer or phone use.
Restrict access to certain rooms in the house.
Withhold affection or ignore your partner for some time.
Forced tasks Assign tasks meant to be degrading, difficult or uncomfortable.
Make your partner recite a statement about their behaviour for a set number of repetitions.
Force your partner to remain in an uncomfortable position for a length of time.
Verbal Punishments
Verbal punishment is a useful tool for dominants to employ, as it allows psychological discipline without physical harm. The careful choice of demeaning and degrading words can be highly effective in putting a submissive in their place.
Insults and Degradation
Direct insults targeting a submissive’s self-worth, intelligence, appearance or behaviour are a straightforward way to inflict verbal punishment. Labels like ‘useless’, ‘pathetic’ or ‘worthless’ convey a dominant’s displeasure while eroding a submissive’s ego. Criticizing a submissive’s flaws, mistakes and imperfections reinforces their position of inferiority. For extra impact, a dominant can spit insults with an air of disgust or contempt.
Commands and Demands
Issuing abrupt commands in an aggressive tone asserts a dominant’s authority while forcing a submissive into immediate action. Strict demands around posture (e.g. ‘kneel’, ‘bend over’), movement (e.g. ‘crawl’, ‘beg’) or repetition (e.g. ‘Keep saying “I am your slave”‘) require a submissive’s obedience and submission. Failure to instantly comply results in further punishment.
Threats and Warnings
Vague threats and ominous warnings of potential consequences keep a submissive in a state of fear and anticipation. Phrases like ‘You’ll regret that’, ‘Don’t make me punish you’ or ‘You’ll be sorry’ allow a dominant to mentally torment a submissive with uncertainty. The unknown nature of what punishment may follow if they continue to displease can be highly unsettling. Promising ‘severe punishment’ or that a submissive will ‘suffer the consequences’ gives a dominant leverage for control without yet taking action.
Using a combination of these verbal tactics, a dominant can thoroughly debase and unsettle a submissive through words alone. The psychological effects of verbal punishment, when employed skillfully, can be just as impactful as physical discipline.
Behaviour Modification
Negative Reinforcement
Negative reinforcement involves removing an undesirable stimulus to increase the likelihood of a behaviour. An example would be reducing the intensity or duration of punishment when your slave exhibits good behaviour. This helps condition them to behave in a certain way by associating it with the removal of an unpleasant experience.
Positive Punishment
Positive punishment means presenting an undesirable stimulus to decrease the likelihood of a behaviour. For example, you can use corporal punishment like spanking, whipping or paddling your slave when they misbehave. Verbal reprimands, degradation and humiliation also qualify as effective punishments. The key is to be consistent and issue punishment as soon as the undesirable behaviour occurs.
Extinction
Extinction involves removing reinforcement for a previously reinforced behaviour, causing the behaviour to eventually disappear. For example, if you have been rewarding your slave for completing a task in a certain way, stop providing that reward. This will make the associated behaviour less likely to occur again. Extinction may lead to an initial increase in the behaviour as your slave seeks to regain the lost reinforcement, so you must avoid reinstating it. With consistency, the behaviour will decrease significantly.
Using a combination of these techniques, you can modify your slave’s behaviour through consistent and judicious application of reinforcement and punishment. The key is to be observant, issue immediate feedback, and adjust your methods based on how your slave responds. With time and practice, you will become adept at using both positive and negative reinforcement to train your slave.
Discuss the scene
Once the submissive has recovered, discuss what each of you enjoyed and didn’t enjoy about the scene. Be open to feedback and willing to compromise. Make notes on how to improve future scenes. An open dialogue will help build trust and allow you to better understand each other’s needs.
Aftercare is ongoing Continue providing aftercare even after the initial recovery period. Send messages letting your submissive know you are thinking of them. Schedule follow-up calls or dates to check on their well-being and provide additional affection and support.
Aftercare should not end abruptly but rather gradually taper off as your submissive returns to their normal headspace. With proper aftercare, the risks of ‘sub drop’ or negative psychological effects following a scene can be minimized. Aftercare allows you both to reconnect, builds intimacy and ultimately leads to healthier BDSM play. Make aftercare a priority, and your submissive will reward you for your dedication and care.
Aftercare
After a BDSM scene, aftercare is essential to help the submissive partner recover physically and emotionally. As the dominant partner, it is your responsibility to properly care for your submissive. Provide physical comfort Gently clean and bandage any injuries. Apply ice packs or aloe vera gel to sore areas. Offer water, juice or a light snack to prevent low blood sugar and replenish fluids. Offer emotional support Reassure your submissive with words of praise and affection. Hold, cuddle and caress them. Ask how they are feeling and listen without judgment. Remind them that the scene is over and they are safe.
Conclusion
In closing, we hope this article has provided thought-provoking yet practical guidance for safely and consensually exploring BDSM play. While inflicting punishment on a willing partner can be thrilling, always uphold respect, trust and open communication. Never compromise their dignity or cross negotiated limits. This exploration requires maturity, care and constant check-ins. Proceed with an open mind, but prioritize their wellbeing. Our relationships grow through understanding. Even in roles of dominance and submission, we better ourselves by uplifting our partners.
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